THE ROLE OF GIVING IN DATING RELATIONSHIPS

The attribute of giving is fundamental to healthy relationships. The first thought that enters the mind of most individuals when faced with a new situation is “How is this going to affect me?” If they determine that they will be inconvenienced or required to do something unpleasant, they be refused to become involved.

When you enter into a dating relationship, position yourself as the giver in the relationship, not the receiver. Understand that the relationship is not a give and take arrangement. It is a give arrangement. One of the greatest types of individuals you can look for are those who live to give. You must strive to be on the giving end of all your relationships.

The essence of relationship is for mutual reliance and interdependence. By person’s choice, each party brings to the relationship all that he has, ready to contribute to the lopes, dreams and future of his partner. Whether it is material goods, favor, or wisdom is not the result of some sort of commune mentality.

The most important thing to remember is that no one does us anything. No matter how close and intimate the relationship. By keeping a consistently grateful posture, you give your partner the joy of initiating when and how he wants to bless you.

A dating relationship is not meant to be a partnership where each individual is usually set up with each partner contributing parts of what they have to make up the whole. A dating relationship, however is a 100/100 arrangement. Each party enters the arena ready to contribute 100% to the success of the relationship, eager to give 100% of their life to promote the other’s future and dreams. When both parties enter the relationship in this manner, everyone’s needs get met, and everyone’s future is bright.

Contribute, Don’t compete

In relationship, you must each bring to the relationship elements that the other needs. One contributes what the other lacks. Your strength covers the other’s weakness. This is why the principle of difference is so important which states: your value in a relationship is determined by your diversity. Ask yourself this question. What do I bring to the table that no one else brings?

I learned long ago to quit competing with my partner in relationship. I always take time to exactly watch those that I am in relationship with. I observe what their strong points are, and I stay away from this strength on areas where they are strong, they don’t need me. Instead, I fill in the cavities of this weakness, thus becoming what they need.

Your value in any relationship is the difference that you can bring, to cause success to come to your partner. I don’t need to become what other people need because I’m afraid of what may happen if I don’t. I am not passively allowing myself to be molded by another person. I become what is necessary, because I realize that doing so gives me a real person to be in that relationship. I’ve earned my position at any table, the moment that I become what someone needs me to become. I am the one they are looking for; because I have answers and solutions to their problems. You must understand that your values to others are in direct proportion to the problems you solve for them.

Many people become very frustrated in life because they don’t see a purpose in what they are doing. They feel valueless and unappreciated. Remember you will be needed in every relationship, when you are willing to lay down what you perceive to be your own identity, and you embrace the identity that is necessary. Become what another needs. Answer questions that no one can answer. Keep promises that others break. Be willing to go where no one else will go. Be willing to do what no one else will do and do it well.

THE NON-NEGOTIABLES IN DATING RELATIONSHIPS

There is no such thing as an accidental or neutral relationship, every person you are connected to must have to influence you in some way or another, whether you realize it or not. You are continually being seasoned and flavored by these individuals that surround your life. Understanding this will cause two things to happen: first you begin to seriously examine each relationship you get have and secondly, you will become very selective in developing new ones.

I have identified six attribute that must be agreed upon by anyone intending to build a positive, progressive relationship in dating.

Personal integrity: Before going into any relationship with him or her, start by taking a closer look at the life of the person you want to get involved with. Ask the family, and even look at their friends. Take a look at their track record. Have they been faithful in the past or is commitment not one of their strong points. These are some basic ways you can identify good relationship. Not everyone that comes into your life should automatically become your friend or a dating partner. There are individuals that do not belong to your life. When choosing relationships, choose people who are pursuing change, growth, and excellence. Stick to your principles. As you walk according to your proven standard, you will attract those who do the same. If you are to walk together with someone, then you both must be in agreement on these foundational principles.

Define the purpose of the relationship: Relationship must serve a greater purpose than simply the enjoyment of mutual interests. When you get with those who are close and dearer to your life, the primary purpose is not to relax and have fun, spend all the day in the club or beer parlor. The sole purpose of any relationship is to add value and build a life for one another.

Is He or She Honest: Always be cautious of someone who wants from you what he himself is unwilling to give? If an individual wants you to be truthful, but he/she continues to be dishonest, He wants you to love him but all he gives you is indifference. You must refuse anyone into the intimacies of your life, especially if he or she is unwilling to agree and comply with the proven qualities of truth and integrity.

Is he or she a giver? One of the greatest types of individual you can look out for are those who like to give. Givers are contagious. There is a tendency that you will also become a giver and this will help relationship to last long. You must strive to be on the giving end of your relationship. However, you must strategically plant your seed by sowing your life into good grounds- into the one who like yourself, have chosen the lifestyle of giving. Givers cannot be friends with non-givers. It will be a lopsided relationship that will not last. If you are a giver, you will not be happy being in relationship with non-givers because giving isn’t just something you do-it’s who you are.

Is He or She truthful? Truth is an integral aspect of every beneficial relationship. You cannot help a person who ignores truth and is continually controlled by his circumstances nor should you be in a relationship with such a person. Truth must be the immovable bedrock of every relationship. I practice this principle in my own relationship. I make sure there is an agreement upon a standard of truth that exceeds our individual thought and opinions. You certainly cannot afford to build an intimate relationship with a type of individual that does not speak the truth.

Does he or she support your future? Before you step into a relationship, know that you can commit to a long term haul. People who are focused on the past will quickly become a weight that will hold you back. The inability to see long-term is the cause for the present divorce rate. Couples are not willing to be committed to the end. They look at what they can get short term, and then when something better comes along, they leave.

You must break from those relationships and embrace those who will take you to the future. Link yourself up with those who are going somewhere. Seek out those who have a vision for their lives, and find your place at their table. They are people who will open the door of your destiny. These types of individual s will not waste time, nor are they looking for short-term fishing buddies.

THE CHOICE OF DATING RUSSIAN GIRLS

Russian girls are very romantic for a date. If ever you have dated a Russian, you will know that Russian girls are fun-loving and always easy to go with.

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Russians are flashy. They love to dress cool, in sky-high heels, glittery mini-skirt and fur coats. Most times, they dress to suit the weather especially in cold weather where heavy fur-coat is mostly worn. Russian girls love to go to club. Most of these clubs especially in Moscow are very expensive. They are designed for the very rich, with strict face-control and exorbitant cover fees.

Russian women are extremely beautiful. Their young women are gorgeous, and are very particularly about their appearance. Most Russian women would not go outside without having a perfectly made outfit. Even in winter, most Russian girl still like to go out with wears like short-skirt, tights, heels, and a fur coat.

Russians love Vodka. So, next time when taking a Russian lady out, don’t forget to buy her a bottle of vodka. They may have gotten used to drinking vodka due to high humid condition associated with the winter. But all Russian are capable of drinking vodka and most of them will always have a bottle in their house whether they drink it or not.

Russian women are very kind, considerate and extremely feminine. They love to look after their man and will do almost anything for them to make them happy. This can go from cooking, cleaning, to even taking care of you in bedroom.

Russian girls love gifts. They love flowers. If you must get her attention instantly, buy flowers like roses, lilies, tulips-just make sure they smell nice and present it as a gift to her. Another popular gift is jewelry. You can also buy good and expensive jewelries that look attractive as birthday gift or valentine day gift for her.

But they are also traits in men that Russian girls do actually like even if they never admit it-knowing that, you can integrate those traits into your behavior to pave way for smoother path.

Dress nicely

Russian girls love guys who dress very simple. To impress her, do the opposite and dress sharply. Wear basics that are made of high-quality material and be relatively fashionable.

Be a gentleman

Be ready to pick up the bills at the restaurant without discussion, open doors when necessary, give up your seat at the metro, and always do the necessary care.

Be nice

You can choose to be nice to get her- by standing out to be considerate, compassionate, and generally making sure she’s comfortable, happy and listened to. Always try to be nice to her and don’t forget to buy more gifts.

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COLLEGE DATING REVIEW

The college seems to be the easiest and perfect place to start dating and fall in love. This is where you get to meet all kinds of single girls and single guys who are yet to get hook up. The biggest issue with dating has been to find a relationship where both parties are on the same page and both want the same thing. There are various ways to meet a partner to start dating in college

Through Social Media

This is an important aspect that cannot be overlooked if one has to find a dating partner in college. Start building and keeping a social life. This could be achieved by creating social media accounts like Facebook, twitter, LinkedIn, instagram, forum posting, whatsapp and lot more. This is where you will get to meet and make more friends to share experiences about college life. You will also have the opportunity of sharing intimate feeling with the opposite sex through chat messages or video or audio calls and see each other as they are using this social media platform. The more friends you make, the more opportunity you’ll have to be introduced to singles and attractive women through other social media friends.

Birthday parties/College parties

College dating is often associated with quick hook ups at parties. This could be a birthday party, student party or any other college party. I met my first date at a friend’s birthday party, the party was witness by so many friends and the room was filled to brim by the college student and other guest. It was really time to drop some seriousness and have fun with friends that came around. So, I quickly walked up to this girl that caught my eyes so much, she was so pretty. We started a conversation that allowed us to get to know each other even more than how we knew ourselves as mere college colleagues. Then we started dating. We built a strong relationship that lasted even after college.

Join extracurricular classes (like golf or ballroom dance)

Make out time and join extracurricular activities while in college. This is where you will get to meet other team mates and make new friends. Group outing like this does not have the same kind of pressure as a one-on-one date. They can be a great step to start dating in college. If you are interested in a girl and want to make sure she become more than just a casual hook up, then feel free to invite the girl on an actual date.

Forum posting

You can attract the attention of the opposite sex by posting comments on forums regularly. Endeavor to post good comments that will attract attention of other user to read your post. You can also mention names while commenting, by you could start a conversation with the one you interested. College girls like joining forums and commenting in forums as well. If you find the one you are interested in, don’t hesitate to start a personal conversation with her.

Be free to use cute words while starting a conversation with your potential partner. Don’t be harsh, be more playful and friendly. Endeavor to keep things in low pressure as possible, this way you won’t feel all that pressure having to keep each other stimulated through conversation.