HOW TO NURTURE A RELATIONSHIP FROM SCRATCH

All relationships must be nurtured, but this is especially true of those who are yet or into a new relationship. When you decide that you want to pursue a relationship with a particular person whom you love, you must be ready to invest substantial time, thought and resources into your pursuit. Anything less than the conspicuous excellent of devoted attention will delegate you to the throngs of unnoticed people who would love to befriend such a person.

The way a new relationship must be nurtured is very similar to the care and attention that a tiny, new plant must receive, in order to survive, and then thrive. It would be ridiculous to plant a fragile seedling out in the inclement weather among other established plants, and expect it to survive. A new seedling must be brought into the greenhouse and protected, until it is firmly rooted, and strong enough to withstand the storms that it will later need to endure.

New relationship need to be handled with the same devotion and attention. The foundation you build in the earliest stage of an association will establish the very nature and future of that relationship. The care and the consideration given to an individual at the inception of the relationship will open the door to a strong deeply rooted bond that will later be able to survive the assault of the most violent storm.

The quality of any relationship will depend on the level of pursuit that you comfortably maintain. Many relationships seem to start out great in the beginning, only to fizzle out in the later. Most people put their foot forward at the beginning of a relationship but then allow familiarity to sabotage their pursuit. You must avoid this pitfall.

The passion of your pursuit must be noticeable. As you focus on adding value to this person’s life, the mindfulness and attention that you give to each act of kindness communicates the essence of exclusivity; it reveals that this person is constantly in your thoughts, and you have done your homework to make a list of ways to please him. You must be observant and vigilant to hear what he says. You have studied the unique and specific contribution that you can make in this person’s life. You have sown so much value into him that he is compelled to deepen his relationship with you. Your gift has now made room for you.

However, you must remember; though your gift will make room for you, your gift will not keep you there. You must perform once you get there, doing what is required to maintain the relationship. Entering such an intense pursuit is not easy, and maintaining it even harder. Investing your life into another, to this degree takes concentrated effort and hard work.

As you demonstrate your willingness to lay down your life to multiply greatness in the life of another, greatness will then begin to pursue you.

And remember that, the reason a person approaches you is because of your advertisement; it’s the fragrance and aroma that your life exude. The reason that a person will stay with you is the benefit the he gains from your relationship. He discovers, upon close examination that you are genuinely found to be what you presented yourself to be. As you present yourself to him in the best possible light, you try to show him that you are a particular kind of individual; the closer he get, the sweeter his experience with you must become.