THE NON-NEGOTIABLES IN DATING RELATIONSHIPS

There is no such thing as an accidental or neutral relationship, every person you are connected to must have to influence you in some way or another, whether you realize it or not. You are continually being seasoned and flavored by these individuals that surround your life. Understanding this will cause two things to happen: first you begin to seriously examine each relationship you get have and secondly, you will become very selective in developing new ones.

I have identified six attribute that must be agreed upon by anyone intending to build a positive, progressive relationship in dating.

Personal integrity: Before going into any relationship with him or her, start by taking a closer look at the life of the person you want to get involved with. Ask the family, and even look at their friends. Take a look at their track record. Have they been faithful in the past or is commitment not one of their strong points. These are some basic ways you can identify good relationship. Not everyone that comes into your life should automatically become your friend or a dating partner. There are individuals that do not belong to your life. When choosing relationships, choose people who are pursuing change, growth, and excellence. Stick to your principles. As you walk according to your proven standard, you will attract those who do the same. If you are to walk together with someone, then you both must be in agreement on these foundational principles.

Define the purpose of the relationship: Relationship must serve a greater purpose than simply the enjoyment of mutual interests. When you get with those who are close and dearer to your life, the primary purpose is not to relax and have fun, spend all the day in the club or beer parlor. The sole purpose of any relationship is to add value and build a life for one another.

Is He or She Honest: Always be cautious of someone who wants from you what he himself is unwilling to give? If an individual wants you to be truthful, but he/she continues to be dishonest, He wants you to love him but all he gives you is indifference. You must refuse anyone into the intimacies of your life, especially if he or she is unwilling to agree and comply with the proven qualities of truth and integrity.

Is he or she a giver? One of the greatest types of individual you can look out for are those who like to give. Givers are contagious. There is a tendency that you will also become a giver and this will help relationship to last long. You must strive to be on the giving end of your relationship. However, you must strategically plant your seed by sowing your life into good grounds- into the one who like yourself, have chosen the lifestyle of giving. Givers cannot be friends with non-givers. It will be a lopsided relationship that will not last. If you are a giver, you will not be happy being in relationship with non-givers because giving isn’t just something you do-it’s who you are.

Is He or She truthful? Truth is an integral aspect of every beneficial relationship. You cannot help a person who ignores truth and is continually controlled by his circumstances nor should you be in a relationship with such a person. Truth must be the immovable bedrock of every relationship. I practice this principle in my own relationship. I make sure there is an agreement upon a standard of truth that exceeds our individual thought and opinions. You certainly cannot afford to build an intimate relationship with a type of individual that does not speak the truth.

Does he or she support your future? Before you step into a relationship, know that you can commit to a long term haul. People who are focused on the past will quickly become a weight that will hold you back. The inability to see long-term is the cause for the present divorce rate. Couples are not willing to be committed to the end. They look at what they can get short term, and then when something better comes along, they leave.

You must break from those relationships and embrace those who will take you to the future. Link yourself up with those who are going somewhere. Seek out those who have a vision for their lives, and find your place at their table. They are people who will open the door of your destiny. These types of individual s will not waste time, nor are they looking for short-term fishing buddies.